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This is in the US. Last Wednesday, I woke up feeling under the weather, but it appeared to just be allergies. Regardless, I still took precautions to avoid spreading anything (washing hands, excusing myself to cough, eating separately, warning people to keep a distance, etc). It wasn't until after work I realized I was definitely sick with something that ended up being one of the worst cases of strep I'd ever experienced.

Unfortunately, despite these efforts, a coworker of mine has also gotten sick. While I mostly kept my distance and warned him at the beginning of the day, there was a 10 minute span of time he came over to work at my desk with me seated a bit away. In hindsight, I ought to have reminded him again that I was not doing well and requested, for his sake, I join him at a distance at his desk if necessary. From the wording of his out of office email, it sounds as though it has been a multi-day ordeal, which has me thinking it may have come from me. I understand though, that this is not necessarily true.

While it might be a coincidence, I feel slightly guilty knowing that it could be my fault he is in this situation. In addition, I am worried for his sake, since I know it took me 5 days and antibiotics to even feel well enough to return. I want to communicate these things to him, specifically that I had strep, which needs treatment, rather than the flu, which has similar symptoms. However, I'm unable to figure out a way to do this without sounding overbearing.

I've considered the following response:

Hi _____,

I'm sorry to hear you're not doing well. If it is relevant to your situation, you might remember I was out sick last Thursday and Friday. I was diagnosed Thursday with strep throat. Given the proximity of our desks, I feel it's possible I might have unknowingly passed it on to you, and wanted to give you a heads up. If this is the case, I want to apologize. I hope you feel better soon.

Sincerely, _____

My question is, is this an appropriate way to express my concern that his illness may be serious and apologize if I accidentally spread my illness to him?

EDIT: emphasized that I understand that it may just be a fluke. I certainly don't think it's guaranteed, and would like to proceed accordingly.

My question is, is this an appropriate way to express my concern and
apologize if I accidentally spread my illness to him?

I think you may be worrying about this a bit too much, and if you provide inaccurate information you could cause more harm than good.

Unless you are 100% certain you caused this persons illness, there really isn't much to say and an apology isn't in order. This type of thing happens in the workplace (germ sharing if you will).

The other consideration is that you cannot be certain they did not catch the illness from another source. ( children, spouse, food, etc. )

Short answer: Don't worry about this, no apology necessary.

I worked in a factory where we were almost on top of each other. They say that people get can get sick from the same person at different times like amy could come in with it on Monday, give it to you and joe and joe could actually get sick before amy, and then you after joe so joe might think he gave it to you when he actually caught it from the person who was sick.

People get sick at work and you shouldn't worry about it.

I decided to go ahead and email him to express that I hope he gets well soon and that I was diagnosed with strep. I did not apologize in the email.

My reasons for doing so is as follows:

• We work together frequently enough that an email with some personal information isn't too unusual




• Since it's flu season (which strep can be confused for) and we work in the US, I wanted him to have more information to decide whether or not to go to the doctor.




• If it ends up not being strep, or if the topic doesn't come up again, I won't have apologized and seemed over concerned. If he later mentions it ended up being strep, I can say something small in person.

This depends a lot on what is customary in your locale. With the caveat that I am Canadian and this is what is customary in my locale, here is my response:

I think you're overthinking this. People give diseases to others at work all the time. It happens. You did your best to let everyone know not to come close to you and so on. The rest is not your fault. I wouldn't even send a message, except maybe to say "Hey Joe, I heard you're feeling under the weather, I hope you feel better soon".

In many countries, we have things called "sick days", which are days not counted as our vacation allowance that we can use to stay home in case we are sick. Some locales (presumably yours included) do not have such a system. This situation is one of the benefits of such a system; if you are sick and come to work anyway then you pass on your sickness and everyone else gets sick. Conversely if you stay home when you are sick then you feel better faster and also nobody in the office gets sick. If you have authority in the office you may want to consider suggesting or implementing such a system, because you have seen first hand the benefits.

As far as letting your coworker know he has strep, that's not your business. You're not a doctor so step off. He will go see a doctor and his doctor will tell him what he has and prescribe the appropriate medication. It's neither your business nor your responsibility, and this part imo is regardless of locale.

Yes, your response is appropriate.

Most of the time, were this a common cold or the flu, I would say a message like this is not necessary and not to worry about it. However, since this is specifically strep throat, which may not go away without the correct treatment, I think it's worth mentioning. The main point of the message is that you have information that may help him recover quicker, not that you feel guilty for getting him sick (though your simple apology is not out of place).

Edit:

Adding information about strep throat, as many of the people here seem to have never had it. Strep throat is a bacterial infection with symptoms very similar to the flu. Antibiotics help decrease the length of the infection and make it no longer contagious. Antibiotics can only be provided with a doctor's prescription, and they will usually require a positive strep test first.

When encountering flu-like symptoms, many people in the US often won't go to the doctor, since there's nothing that can be done for a viral infection aside from rest and wait. That's why it's important to tell the coworker that it might be strep, so that they know that they should go to the doctor to get the test done. The goal is to share information that may help them recover quicker, and prevent them from spreading it to others. There's little risk of the coworker treating for strep incorrectly, because the treatment requires a doctor's examination first to confirm the appropriate course of action.